VICTIMITIS

 

Definition of Victimitis:
A person who believes he/she is a victim in every situation.

Synonyms of Victimitis:
Faultlessness, blamelessness, powerlessness, etc.

These notes are from recovery in AA and/or related 12 step programs.
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Love in fellowship.

There is one feeling we need to pay particular attention to in recovery: feeling victimized. We’re learning to own our power, to take care of ourselves, and to remove ourselves as victims. –Melody Beattie | More…

Avoiding Pity City and the Victimitis Virus | More…

Victimization can be so habitual that we may feel victimized even by the good things that happen to us! We have an incredible, almost awesome ability to find misery in any situation, even the most wonderful of circumstances.

We are not victims. We may have sought out, created, or re-created situations that victimized us. But we are not victims.We can stand in our power. We do not have to allow ourselves to be victimized.

We do not have to seek out misery in either the most miserable or the best situations.We are free to stand in the glow of self-responsibility. –The Language of Letting Go/Melody Beattie | More…

I have often thought myself the victim of what other people say and do. Yet every time I confessed the sins of such people, especially those whose sins did not correspond exactly with my own, I found that I only increased the total damage.

My own resentment, my self-pity would often render me well-nigh useless to anybody. Hurtful gossip is but a symptom of our remaining emotional illness; and consequently I must never be angry at the unreasonableness of sick people. –As Bill Sees It p.268 | More…

Avoiding Pity City and the Victimitis Virus | More…

Victimization can be so habitual that we may feel victimized even by the good things that happen to us! We have an incredible, almost awesome ability to find misery in any situation, even the most wonderful of circumstances. We are not victims. We may have sought out, created, or re-created situations that victimized us. But we are not victims. We can stand in our power. We do not have to allow ourselves to be victimized. We do not have to seek out misery in either the most miserable or the best situations. We are free to stand in the glow of self-responsibility. –The Language of Letting Go | More…

There is one feeling we need to pay particular attention to in recovery: feeling victimized. In recovery, we’re learning to identify when we’re feeling victimized, when we are actually being victimized, and why we’re feeling victimized. We’re learning to own our power, to take care of ourselves, and to remove ourselves as victims. Sometimes, a change of attitude is all that’s required. We are not victims –The Language of Letting Go | More…