CONFLICT

Definition of Conflict:
An active disagreement between people with opposing opinions or principles

Synonyms of Conflict:
Dispute, disagreement, discord, friction, strife, hostility, disputation, contention, etc.

These notes are from recovery in AA and related 12 step programs.
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Love in fellowship.

We cannot expect to be excluded from conflicts simply because we have a Twelve Step program. We have, however, a means of dealing with conflicts effectively when we respond according to principle. –Walk In Dry Places/Mel B. | More….

You’ve got three choices:
keep on fighting, ignore each other, or make up. –Today’s Gift | More…

We began to see adversity as a God-given opportunity to develop the kind of courage which is born of humility, rather than bravado. Thus we were enabled to accept ourselves, our circumstances, and our fellows. –As Bill Sees It | More… (p.91)

When conflicts arise, as they must, we must let go of our pride and our desire to be right.
Our differences are not necessarily about who is right or wrong, good or bad.

Every conflict has many levels.
Many times in conflict what we want most is to feel listened to and understood.

When we listen and work to understand, we can let go of our need to “win,” and our differences can build our common strength. –The More We Find in Each Other/Merle & Mavis Fossum | More…