CODEPENDENCY

Definition of Codependency:
Excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically one with an illness or addiction who requires support.

Synonyms of Codependency:
Addicted, attached, hooked, interdependent, mutually dependent, slavish trust, etc.

These inspirational notes from recovery in AA and related 12 step programs.
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Love in fellowship.

Codependency is “the chronic sacrifice of self for the maintenance of a relationship” | More…

Codependency is a type of dysfunctional helping relationship where one person supports or enables another person’s drug addiction, alcoholism, gambling addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement | More…

Fear is at the core of codependency. It can motivate us to control situations or neglect ourselves. It’s time to thank our old fears for helping us survive, then wave good-bye to them.

We can create a feeling of safety for ourselves, now. We are safe, now. We’ve made a commitment to take care of ourselves. We can trust and love ourselves. –The Language of Letting Go/Melody Beattie | More…

So much of what I call my codependency is fear and panic because I spent so much of my life not knowing how to take care of myself in relationships. No matter how long we have been recovering, we may still tend to give up our power to others.

When we do this, we experience the set of emotions and thoughts we call “the codependent crazies.” We don’t have to stay stuck in our codependency.

Practice using your power to take care of yourself, no matter who you are dealing with, where you are, or what you are doing. This is what recovery means. This does not mean we try to control others; it means we own our power to take care of ourselves. –The Language of Letting Go/Melody Beattie | More…

Codependent behavior is an attempt to take control over the uncontrollable.
Codependency is blinding; the overwhelming desire to please and protect coalesces with the unbearable fear of criticism, conflict, and abandonment and impairs your ability to recognize the destructive nature of your behavior.

Addiction and codependency are intimately related phenomena.  Both believed to be born from shame and fear-based family dynamics or formative experiences. The addict turns to alcohol and drugs while the codependent desperately seeks solace in the approval of others –Alain Massey | More…

Codependency
(Definition: excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically one with an illness or addiction who requires support.) Fear is at the core of codependency. It can motivate us to control situations or neglect ourselves. It’s time to thank our old fears for helping us survive, then wave good-bye to them. We can create a feeling of safety for ourselves, now. We are safe, now. We’ve made a commitment to take care of ourselves. We can trust and love ourselves. –The Language of Letting Go | More…