BLAME

Definition of Blame:
Feel or declare that (someone or something) is responsible for a fault or wrong.

Synonyms of Blame:
Hold responsible, hold accountable, hold liable, culpability, onus, etc.

These notes are from recovery in AA and/or related 12 step programs.
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Love in fellowship.

It’s so easy to blame others. Others are always making mistakes we can hide behind. That’s what blame is—hiding.

When we blame others for our mistakes, we’re trying to hide our character defects. It’s nobody else’s fault that we act the way we do. It’s our fault. We’re responsible for our actions. –Keep It Simple | More…

We live in a blame culture-we want to know whose fault it is and how they’re going to pay.

our personal, social, and political worlds, we do a lot of screaming and finger-pointing, but we rarely hold people accountable.

How could we? We’re so exhausted from ranting and raving that we don’t have the energy to develop meaningful consequences and enforce them. – Gifts of Imperfection/Brené Brown  | More…

To see how erratic emotions victimized us often took a long time. We had to drop the word “blame” from our speech and thought.

It was only when I sobered up and worked on my inventory, that I could no longer blame anyone. -Daily Reflections | More…

At Step Four we resolutely looked for our own mistakes.
Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking, and frightened?

Though a given situation had not been entirely our fault, we often tried to cast the whole blame on the other person involved. We finally saw that the inventory should be ours, not the other man’s. –As Bill Sees It | More… (p.222)